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Strategy for the End-Time Home

Thank you for taking the time and effort to study God’s Word!

 

We know that the home today is not what God intended for the home to be when He created it in the beginning.  In this lesson I want to take a look and see what our strategy should be if we are going to have creative, happy, successful homes in today’s world.

 

When looking at a biblical strategy I’m always reminded of these two scriptures:

 

Solomon in Ecclesiastes 1:9-10 “The thing that hath been, it is that which shall be; and that which is done is that which shall be done; and there is no new thing under the sun.”

 

Isaiah 46:9-10 “…for I am God, and there is none like me, Declaring the end from the beginning, and from ancient times the things that are not yet done,…”

 

If we want to know how to live and what to expect today, then we must first look in the past.  God has already shown us what is happening and what is going to happen in the future.  You probably already know that the divorce rate in American, according to several studies, range from 50 - 60%.  In my home town last year in one month we had 70 marriage licenses issued and 30 filings for divorce.  And we live in small town America where commitment and moral values are supposed to be strong.  That is better that the norm but that is still one home, one family per day being destroyed by the enemy.  I can’t accept that! 

 

Another recent study says that the divorce rate in the church is highter than in the world today.  Now if we know that God hates divorce according to Malachi 2:16 then why is this happening?   I believe its because we are not preparing ourselves to defend our homes and marriages.  We are not doing what Abraham taught us in Genesis – Put an altar of prayer in the home.  Husband and wife must pray together.

 

I believe Jesus told us what to expect in the last day church and I believe He told us that so we could be well aware of the enemies tactics and “Stand against the wiles of the devil” as the Word says.  Read Luke 17:26-30 and see the examples Jesus gave us to examine and use for our preparation.

 

Luke 17:26-30   “And as it was in the days of Noah, so shall it be also in the days of the Son of Man.  They did eat, they drank, they married wives, they were given in marriage, until the day that Noah entered into the ark, and the flood came, and destroyed them all.  Likewise also as it was in the days of Lot; they did eat, they drank, they bought, they sold, they planted, they builded;  But the same day that Lot went out of Sodom it rained fire and brimstone from heaven, and destroyed them all.”

 

 

What was going on during the time of Noah and Lot.  The same thing that went on in many cases in history as well as today.  I’m not going into all of it here but I encourage you to read Genesis 6 –20 and study Noah, Lot, their families and their choices.

 

1.      People rejected God – Gen 4:1-7,  Rom 1:17-32, 2 Pet 2:5,  2Tim 4:1-4, Mt 24:38

 

2.      They rejected Preaching – 2Pet 2:5

 

3.      Homosexuality/unlawful relations – Gen 19, Lk 17:28, Rom 1:17-32 

God makes it very clear in Leviticus 18:22-23 that this is an abomination.

 

4.      Violence & Bloodshed – Gen 6:1-13, Rom 1:17-32, 2Tim 3

It started when Cain killed Able and hasn’t stopped since.

 

5.      Drunkenness – Mt 24:38, Lk 17:26-39,  21:34-36,  Rom 1:17-38,  2Tim 3

 

6.      Buying & Selling – Lk 17:28, Rom 1:17-32,  2Tim 3

 

7.      Planting & building – Lk 17:28,  Rom 1:17-32,  Dan 12:4

 

8.      Marriages & Divorces – Gen 6:1-4,  Mt 24:38,  Lk 17:27

Divorce has doubled since 1965.  Because of it we have 1 out of 4 children living in single parent homes. And almost 2 out of 4 living with a stepparent.

 

Deuteronomy 28:30-32, 41 predicts what we see happening today.  “You will marry, have children and build a house and another man will take it from you”  “You will have children that you will not enjoy.  They shall go into captivity.”

 

Paul tells us in 2 Timothy 3:1-8 what to expect at the end of days -- TODAY!

 

“This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.  For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, traitors, heady, high-minded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God:  Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof:  from such turn away.”

 

Isn’t this what we see on every hand today.  If you study this scripture you’ll find that 12 of these 19 things that Paul said would be happening deal with relationships.  Relationships is what the enemy wants to destroy.  The relationship between Man and his creator- God.  But to do that he must destroy the relationship between husband and wife, parent and child.

 

Let us look at two end-time families and see what they were like and what choices they made and compare it to our lives today.

 

In Luke 17:26-31 we see that Jesus is telling us what to expect in the end times.  Jesus stated the same think about Noah in Matt 24:37 but here Luke documented another example Jesus used - “Lot”.  From these two examples we see what will be happening to families in the last days and what type of people, households, and priest of the home will be present.  So what exactly can we learn from Noah and Lot.  They both found grace in the eyes of the lord!

 

 

Lot – Found grace in the eyes of the Lord (Genesis 19:19)

 

1.      He Looked at the natural instead of the Spiritual  (Genesis 13:11)  He chose the plains toward Sodom.  Eventually ended up living in the city of Sodom. And when God told Abraham that He was about to destroy Sodom he asked to save it if 50, 45, 30 & 10 could be found righteous.  Why did he stop at 10?  Most theologians say that there were 10 in Lots family and Abraham knew that and Abraham thought surly Lot, being a righteous man, would keep his own family holy and righteous before God.  But I believe because of the choices Lot made caused his family to turn from God. Just as the old song says “Sin will take you farther that you want to go, keep you longer than you want to stay & cost you more than you want to pay”  we must remember this when making decisions in the future.

 

Lot was materialistic.  And no pitfall represents a greater threat to the family than materialism – the assumption that things are more important than people.

 

In 1960 survey asked university students their #1 educational goal.  Most predominant answers – Developing a meaningful philosophy of life.  The same survey was taken in 1989 -- Number one answer -- Being well-off financially.  We’re raising a very materialistic society today.  We want everything instant.  As Jensen Franklin put it – “We’re a microwave society serving a Crock-pot God.”

 

2.      Lost influence with his family.  Our culture today is not much like lot in his day.  We’re not troubled so much by standing for the wrong things as we are by standing for nothing.

 

One family expert says, “Young people are growing up with much less commitment of any kind.”  Why?  They don’t see mom and dad with any commitment.

 

a.       Lot gave in to the expectations of the people.  He ended up living in the city of Sodom.

b.      He was unable to save his family.  Because of his choices, I believe his family lost faith in him and God.  Every decision we make our family is effected.  And when we make choices that go against the Word of God our family takes notice.  They are influenced by those decisions.

 

 

Now lets look at Noah  He found grace in the eyes of the Lord (Genesis 6:8)

 

1.      He was the priest of his house  (what he said went, his family had faith that he wouldn’t lead them wrong)  I believe Noah was very much like Abraham in Genesis 14 when he went to retrieve lot and his family after they were taken captive.  The scripture says that Abraham took 318 men (born in his own household) and destroyed four armies.  We know that it was God that gave them victory but what caused the 318 men to follow?  They knew that Abraham had a relationship with God and if God said do it then victory would be there’s.   That’s how you and I should be today.

 

Noah wasn’t an absentee parent.  I believe he understood what Paul tells us in Ephesians 6:1-4 “Children, obey your parents, and Fathers, (parents) train and instruct your children…”  Noah was present everyday to encourage, uplift, motivate, discipline and love his family.  Today this is very hard because we hardly see each other.  Families during those days ate together, worked together and spent time together.  Today our families are scattered to the four winds.  It’s almost impossible to sit down to a meal together.  If we did we could do what I believe Noah did.  When they sat down to a meal there was much more going on than sharing good food.  They were communicating, values were being transmitted, love was being expressed.  The family was being cultivated.

 

One of the greatest teachers and educators I’ve met is a man by the name of Cliff Shimels.  Before he went on to be with the Lord he taught at Lee University in Cleveland, Tennessee.  Several years ago he conducted a survey of 1000 kindergartners and he ask them two questions.  1) what is the one woman that you admire more than any other?  The answer was Mom.  2) what one man do you admire more than any other?  The number one answer was Michael Jordan.  Now I ask you, what is wrong with this picture.  Where are the dads and why aren’t they more influential with their children.

 

2.      Noah believed God.  Hebrews 11:7 “By faith Noah, being warned of God of things not seen as yet, moved with fear, prepared an ark to the saving of his house; by the which he condemned the world, and became heir of the righteousness which is by faith”  We don’t need to question God)  His word is true!  If He said it, It is true.

Noah had faith!

 

3.      He was out of the expectations of the people.  He wasn’t bothered by what others thought or said about what he was doing.  And there must have been many who thought he was out of his mind, building a big boat to get in when it rained.  There had never been any rain.  But Noah was delivered like Peter in Acts chapter 12.  Remember when the angel came and led him out of the jail and when they reached the iron gate to the city the angel disappeared and the gate opened on its own accord?  Then Peter made a statement “Now I know of a surety, that the Lord hath sent his angel, and hath delivered me out of the hand of Herod, and from all the expectation of the people of the Jews.”  We can’t follow the world, we can’t let the world influence our choices, our decisions or our purpose.  I believe Noah was what Paul calls us in 2 Corinthians 5:20 “ambassadors for Christ”

Do you know what an ambassador is and what goes with this title?  That is another teaching but do a little research and you’ll be excited to know you are an ambassador.

 

4.      He was a positive influenced on his family.  I think he probably praised his kids.  I think he encouraged them, he blessed them.  Do we praise our kids today?  Not enough!  I read a recent survey that said 65% of adults today think very poorly of teenagers.

 

If we, as parents and church friends, don’t think very highly of them, they want think very highly of themselves.  If almost half of all children are living in single parent homes that means they’re not getting the proper example to follow, their not getting the time required to help them discover the truth about this life much less about Jesus. 

 

Yet we have the audacity to complain about this generation coming up.

 

Two things I think was the key to Noah’s kids following him, sticking by his side, and fathering a new world.

 

I.          He spent time with them.  He encouraged, inspired, uplifted, motivated, and blessed them to do what God required. To a child there is no such thing as quality time.  All they want is your TIME.  I believe Noah gave them time.  I believe he blessed his children and encouraged them in the Lord.

 

What will blessing your children do for them?  I’ve heard that of all the prison population in the world less than 1% is Jewish, why?  Because almost all Jewish parents bless their children daily.  Jonathan Edwards, one of our great forefathers in the ministry blessed his kids daily.  His seed produced great leaders and contributed to society in a very positive manner.  Look at what they became:

100      Lawyers                                  

80        Holders of public Office           

65        College Professors                   

13        College presidents                   

56        Doctors                                                           

30        Judges                                     

3          Governors                               

3          Mayors                                   

3          Senators of the US                  

1          Comptroller of US       

1          Vice President of US   

 

SEE WHAT BLESSING YOUR CHILDREN DAILY WILL DO.

 

Praise your children.  Encourage them, pray for them, bless them every day.

 

God wants to bless our children with this last day outpouring.  Remember what Joel said and Peter repeated it in Acts chapter 2:17 

 

17 And it shall come to pass in the last days, saith God, I will pour out of my Spirit upon all flesh: and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, and your young men shall see visions, and your old men shall dream dreams:”

 

God wants to send revival in our youth, he wants to revive us and fill us with new wine.  Not only for our sons and daughters but he wants to use us also.  But for you and me we sometimes have to go through a process before we will receive. 

 
Read Mark chapter 2:22 and study the Wine Skins.

 

22 You know better than to put new wine into old wineskins. They would burst. The wine would be spilled out and the wineskins ruined. New wine needs fresh wineskins."

 

I learned something a few months back from one of my favorite evangelist Jan Alldredge.  You can put new wine into old wine skins but the old skins must first go through a process before they can receive the new wine.

 

1.      The old skins must be washed in HOT WATER. 

I believe the word talks about us being wash with the water of the word.

And sometimes that word gets a little hot when we haven’t been living up to God’s standard.

 

2.      The old skins must then be beaten on a rock or hard surface to knock out the current shape and be flexible for the forming of the new wine.

When Gods word pounds on us it sometimes hurts.  But it’s for our own good.  Unless that old form is destroyed it’s impossible for us to receive the form God’s wants to give us.  That means we shouldn’t look back and try and copy the things of the past.  The past is gone, forgiven and over.  This is a new season, God wants to do a new thing, and that requires and new anointing and new wine.

(PAST IS ASHES AND WE MUST LOOK FORWARD NOT BEHING)

 

3.      And last the old skins must be rubbed down with oil.  To make them pliable and more flexible to receive the new wine.

This new anointing makes it possible for the old skins to be make ready for new wine.  You and I must received this new anointing if we are to experience this last day outpouring of God’s Spirit.

 

 

 

II.  I believe Noah communicated with his family effectively.   He new His words were important.

 

Ephesians 5 says we are to be followers (imitators) of Christ.  Then we must first go back to the first of the book if we are to imitate God.

 

Genesis 1:3 “God said”

Genesis 1:12 “God saw” He didn’t see until he said.  Same with our children.

 

Mark 11:23  says “For verily I say unto you, that whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith.”

 

First we must say,        Second we must not doubt in our heart.  So our Mouth and Heart must agree.

 

If we look in Luke 1:18-20 we can find where God shut a man’s mouth because his heart condition was about to stop what God had destined. 

 

Zechariah didn’t believe because he was looking in the natural.  God said I can’t Permit his mouth to agree with his heart, he’ll destroy my plan and this man John must precede or pave the way for my son Jesus.

 

Vs 64 – When did he speak again.  When he wrote the truth and then his mouth was loosed.

 

Mark 4 says “Our words are seeds to be sown in our heart”  We sow in our own heart and the heart of others when we speak.  That’s why it’s so important for us to have the Word of God, the Love of Jesus in our heart.  Then we will speak out encouraging, uplifting, inspiring words that God can use to mold us and those around us.

 

YOU AND I MUST STAND AGAINST THE WILES OF THE DEVIL.  Ephesians 6.

 

So what should our strategy be if we want to have a home that is full of love and happiness, a home that is strong and grounded in the things of God?

 

1.   Realize who you are in Christ.

2.      Pray about every choice you make.  Commit your future to God.

3.      Read and Study God’s Word and use what He has given us to go by.  I want my family to be like Noah’s not Lot’s.  Don’t you?

4.      Praise, encourage, uplift, motivate, inspire and be the Godly example for your home.

 

 

Donny Ingram,

ARK Ministry

(205) 274-7458

www.successinthehome.com

E-mail:  info@successinthehome.com

 

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